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Aiding Friends with Depression

How to recognize a friend or loved ones need for help?

People contemplating suicide often signal their distress in their intent to harm themselves seriously. Verbalize your concern and willingness to support them. Encourage them to seek professional help. Help them develop a Proactive Plan that includes ways for them to reach out for help should they feel in imminent risk of harming themselves.

Every one of us is entitled to feel our feelings in our own way. We should also feel empowered to share these feelings without judgement, comparison, pity or guilt.

Be mindful of:

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Changes to typical sleep patterns, such as need for constant sleep, feeling tired and fatigued despite excessive sleep, or insomnia
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Changes in appetite, overeating or undereating, any major dietary deviations from one’s typical dietary routine
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Withdrawal from social outlets, feelings of loneliness, social alienation, feeling burdensome to others
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Dramatic mood changes: easily agitated, irritable, angry, low stress and frustration tolerance, persistent feelings of sadness and hopelessness expressed by no sense of purpose in life or reasons for living
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Distorted self-perception, from body image to self-esteem to task ability to social confidence. Be mindful of an increased perception of pain/increased sensitivity.   In depressed patients who present with musculoskeletal issues, there is often an amplification of pain perception resulting in a response that is disproportionate to the level of actual tissue damage. (Take a look at our ten mental hygiene hacks.)
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Impulsivity, recklessness, thoughts or actions of self-injury
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Loss of leisure interest, change in healthy coping skills, decreased problem-solving abilities, increased use of substances
How you can help and what to say

Having meaningful human contact with a trusted friend can make a huge difference to those suffering with depression. A call or text to say: “Hey, how are you? I mean, how are you, really?” could be just the message they’ve been longing for.

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“I’ve noticed you’ve been a little distant lately. Is there something you’d like to share? Would you be willing to talk about it with me?”
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“I see you are hurting, and I’m here for you. I know there’s nothing I can say to fix your hurt, and I might not understand it, but I’m so grateful that you are allowing me to listen.”
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“What you’re sharing with me sounds really difficult to bear.”
Words that can hurt without meaning to
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“If you just try, you’ll feel better,” “You’re too focused on your (__insert mental health ailment__), you should focus on the future.”
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“What’s the matter with you?” “Why haven’t you been going out/calling/responding to texts/meeting up with friends?”
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“Look on the bright side,” “It could be worse,” and “Well, at least you aren’t (___insert medical issue, financial deficit, generally unhelpful comparison of ‘bad’ situations to
be in that we aren’t in currently____).”

Sir Winston Churchill
1874-1965

Whenever the “black dog” (as Winston Churchill called depression) has gotten a hold of a friend, spend time together watching a funny movie or a comedy special because in laughing, often some of the fear and panic will subside.

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